How do you know if it’s bullying vs. normal peer conflict?
Normal peer conflict:
It happens infrequently (not every day)
Neither person is wanting attention or power, they just disagree
Those involved will take responsibility for their actions and feel remorse for the situation
There is equal power in the relationship
Those involved want to solve the conflict
The behavior is annoying, irritating or bothersome
It is a repeated problem
Is deliberately done to intimidate, hurt, threaten, insult or harm another person.
There is unequal power in the relationship
It’s done on purpose
The bully has little or no remorse for the victim and they may even exhibit satisfaction from the bullying
The bully shows no interest in resolving the conflict
The behavior is frightening, harmful or brings about feelings of fear